“Why does nobody want me” is a heartbreaking question to face. Especially if it’s the result of several closed doors. Or maybe there’s no action at all on the love front.

It can feel personal. Like you’re doomed. But what if that’s not the case.

Based on my personal single journey and after working with singles for many years, I want to share three perspectives on “why nobody wants you”.

Why does nobody want you? Because not everyone is meant for you.

Why nobody wants you is a deceiving perception if you look at it statistically. You haven’t met every single person on the planet. So don’t let those you’ve met so far lead to a generalized false assumption.

Because, as you surely know, not everyone will want you. Besides, only one is enough.

It all comes down to this: you just haven’t met that one person. Yet.

And even though it may feel bitter, it could simply be a matter of time.

When you have the thought “why does nobody want me” remember that:

• The experience that “no one” wants you is objectively a misleading and generalizing conclusion.
• It could simply be a matter of time.

“Why does nobody want me”: a reflection an inner wound

The “why does nobody want me” experience can reflect an inner wound.

If that’s the case, the inner wound is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. By unconsciously attracting people and experiences that confirm “no one wants me” and overlooking those who do.

How do you know if you have an inner wound? One clue is how you react when you feel like nobody wants you. Do you stand on your own side or do you reject yourself? Do you stand firmly in your sense of worth?

Or do thoughts arise such as nobody wants me because of this or that? This is a kind of self-rejection. And a sign of an inner wound in need of healing.

Once your inner self begins to heal, your experience automatically shifts.

It’s completely okay to feel upsetting emotions like sadness, frustration, or disappointment. And at the same time stand on your own side and know your worth.

When you ask yourself “why does nobody want me” notice if:

• you draw positive, negative, or neutral conclusions about yourself?
• you stay rooted in your worth, or does it falter?

“Why does nobody want me?” is a complex question with many possible answers. This post only touches on three perspectives among many. Curious to explore what it might mean for you? Yes, I’d like to try a free single coaching session.

What if “nobody wanting you” is the shortest path to what you’re seeking?

Finding a logical answer to “why doesn’t anyone want me” isn’t always possible from a human perspective. Especially not when you’re in the middle of a situation you dislike.

But from a higher perspective, could it be that you’re on the most direct path towards what you’re seeking?

The experience of “nobody wants me” could be life’s way of clearing time and energy consuming distractions (that is, the wrong people for you). This way you meet a partner who’s right on target faster.

We usually don’t know which path we’re on until we look back.

Many who’ve met their person can confirm that when they look back, they can see how logical the path actually was and how all puzzle pieces fell into place perfectly.

When it feels like nobody wants you, take a step back and feel whether:

• life could be on your side even if it doesn’t feel that way
• could there be a positive purpose to your experience

Nouseibah

Singles’ Coach

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