How about celebrating singles?

As we are entering wedding season in this part of the world I feel the evident discrepancies in how couplehood is viewed by society versus singlehood. While planning (yet another) bachelorette party I found myself feeling rather annoyed and reluctant. At first I couldn’t put my finger on why I was dragging my feet with …

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Get bleepin angry-what do to when you’re angry (part 2/2)

In the previous post I touched on unhealthy approaches in regards to anger instead of the “abc” way which is my own simplified explanation of the underlying intention of and potent responses to, our emotions. If you haven’t read about it or need a reminder check out "Get bleepin angry (part1/2)". Now I’ll focus on …

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Get bleepin angry (part 1/2)

I’m a huge advocate of accepting and having a dialogue with our emotions. At the core I believe the purpose of each emotion is to a) deliver a message and b) be experienced physically in the body. These steps aren’t necessarily chronical but simultaneous. For a set of emotions there’s a third crucial aspect which is …

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How writing letters opens the door for time travel and healing

There are a multitude of rituals and exercises one can undergo in the quest for getting in touch and deepening the relationship with oneself. What I especially find fascinating is when a process allows for an  interaction between  seemingly “split” aspects of the persona. These sorts of internal communications can evoke healing and self comprehension. …

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When you’re triggered as f**k

(Related to the post “Let the trigger game begin!”)  I’m guilty of using the words triggered, trauma and emotional wound interchangeably although not being synonymous. For starters, here is my interpretation of the slight distinction between the three. A trauma occurs at the initial incident where severe emotional pain, that’s too much to handle, is inflicted. …

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Let the trigger game begin!

In the previous post (Happy birthday to me (traveling solo and breaking old patterns)) I mentioned three themes that surfaced during my time in Australia. I thought we’d play a game of mix and match. You have to guess which of the themes powerlessness (a), rejection (b) or abandonment (c) goes with (or got set …

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Singleness- malfunction or enhanced ability?

The terminology used when describing singles is rarely a flattering . The absence of a romantic partner, seems to lead to conclusions indicating there is a dysfunction at bay. One area where this occurs is in our ability to bond to another human being. I can testify to this myself having been on the receiving …

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