My name is Nouseibah and I’m a recovering people pleaser (“Hi Nouseibah”). People pleasing is a well hidden, dysfunctional yet socially awarded way of living. The mechanics of people pleasing are simple: it's an exaggerated agreeableness and helpfulness at the expense of oneself. Behaviour wise, the primary motivation is externally driven: moving according to other …
In the previous post I touched on unhealthy approaches in regards to anger instead of the “abc” way which is my own simplified explanation of the underlying intention of and potent responses to, our emotions. If you haven’t read about it or need a reminder check out "Get bleepin angry (part1/2)". Now I’ll focus on …
Continue reading Get bleepin angry-what do to when you’re angry (part 2/2)
I’m a huge advocate of accepting and having a dialogue with our emotions. At the core I believe the purpose of each emotion is to a) deliver a message and b) be experienced physically in the body. These steps aren’t necessarily chronical but simultaneous. For a set of emotions there’s a third crucial aspect which is …
The definition of anxiety according to Cambridge dictionary is: “An uncomfortable feeling of nervousness or worry about something that is happening or might happen in the future”. All of us experience the unsettling emotion of anxiety at some point. As one who’s had more than my fair share of this type of distress, I can …
Few years back I was invited to a social function where I wasn't familiar with the guests, only the host. The event turned into an annual gathering and I became acquainted with the people. The last time I participated, I acted in a way that my desire to keep part take abruptly came to a …
(Related to the post “Let the trigger game begin!”) I’m guilty of using the words triggered, trauma and emotional wound interchangeably although not being synonymous. For starters, here is my interpretation of the slight distinction between the three. A trauma occurs at the initial incident where severe emotional pain, that’s too much to handle, is inflicted. …
In the previous post (Happy birthday to me (traveling solo and breaking old patterns)) I mentioned three themes that surfaced during my time in Australia. I thought we’d play a game of mix and match. You have to guess which of the themes powerlessness (a), rejection (b) or abandonment (c) goes with (or got set …
I’m unable to count the amount of times I’ve begun to type on my blog only to delete it. Mainly, I’ve had a feeling of being a phony if I were to post photos of picturesque nature landscapes or of myself with a wide smile enjoying life. I’ve captured plenty of images on camera and …
Continue reading Happy birthday to me (traveling solo and breaking old patterns)
Diverging from my old beaten life track and turn in the direction of travel and discovery has been the ultimate decision. Having the luxury expanding my sense of freedom certainly has given grounds for both gratitude and pride. The perks of travelling blended with trifles like culture clashes, language barriers and constantly getting astray, has …
The reason I decided to call myself a single coach is solely based on the fact that I know it very well since I’ve lived my whole life being single. One of the major themes that I have attached to this part of my life is shame. This is a big one. There is a …
Continue reading 30 years of age and always been single, shame oh the shame 🙂
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