I’ve always felt like hope has a fine ring to it. As if it’s a fellow friend to turn to for encouragement and during times of hardships. According to Oxford languages, hope is the feeling of expectation and desire for something particular to happen, or wanting something specific to happen or be true. Isn’t it …
My name is Nouseibah and I’m a recovering people pleaser (“Hi Nouseibah”). People pleasing is a well hidden, dysfunctional yet socially awarded way of living. The mechanics of people pleasing are simple: it's an exaggerated agreeableness and helpfulness at the expense of oneself. Behaviour wise, the primary motivation is externally driven: moving according to other …
In the previous post I touched on unhealthy approaches in regards to anger instead of the “abc” way which is my own simplified explanation of the underlying intention of and potent responses to, our emotions. If you haven’t read about it or need a reminder check out "Get bleepin angry (part1/2)". Now I’ll focus on …
Continue reading Get bleepin angry-what do to when you’re angry (part 2/2)
I’m a huge advocate of accepting and having a dialogue with our emotions. At the core I believe the purpose of each emotion is to a) deliver a message and b) be experienced physically in the body. These steps aren’t necessarily chronical but simultaneous. For a set of emotions there’s a third crucial aspect which is …
There are a multitude of rituals and exercises one can undergo in the quest for getting in touch and deepening the relationship with oneself. What I especially find fascinating is when a process allows for an interaction between seemingly “split” aspects of the persona. These sorts of internal communications can evoke healing and self comprehension. …
Continue reading How writing letters opens the door for time travel and healing
Few years back I was invited to a social function where I wasn't familiar with the guests, only the host. The event turned into an annual gathering and I became acquainted with the people. The last time I participated, I acted in a way that my desire to keep part take abruptly came to a …
(Related to the post “Let the trigger game begin!”) I’m guilty of using the words triggered, trauma and emotional wound interchangeably although not being synonymous. For starters, here is my interpretation of the slight distinction between the three. A trauma occurs at the initial incident where severe emotional pain, that’s too much to handle, is inflicted. …
In the previous post (Happy birthday to me (traveling solo and breaking old patterns)) I mentioned three themes that surfaced during my time in Australia. I thought we’d play a game of mix and match. You have to guess which of the themes powerlessness (a), rejection (b) or abandonment (c) goes with (or got set …
I’m unable to count the amount of times I’ve begun to type on my blog only to delete it. Mainly, I’ve had a feeling of being a phony if I were to post photos of picturesque nature landscapes or of myself with a wide smile enjoying life. I’ve captured plenty of images on camera and …
Continue reading Happy birthday to me (traveling solo and breaking old patterns)
I think when most people define honesty, the concept is composed of truthfulness to other people. So if somebody asks you a question will you provide them an honest answer? Communicating our internal perception of things to others is important of course. I view it as the basis for a meaningful and trusting relationship. I mean …
Nouseibah 