I’ve previously described the concept of “that one issue”. The basic characteristics include (minimally) one area in life where progress appears extra sticky with similar stumbling blocks recurring even when measures have been taken. Regardless of the amount of energy put in, the ball won’t start rolling or there’s a constant one step forward two …
My name is Nouseibah and I’m a recovering people pleaser (“Hi Nouseibah”). People pleasing is a well hidden, dysfunctional yet socially awarded way of living. The mechanics of people pleasing are simple: it's an exaggerated agreeableness and helpfulness at the expense of oneself. Behaviour wise, the primary motivation is externally driven: moving according to other …
In the previous post I touched on unhealthy approaches in regards to anger instead of the “abc” way which is my own simplified explanation of the underlying intention of and potent responses to, our emotions. If you haven’t read about it or need a reminder check out "Get bleepin angry (part1/2)". Now I’ll focus on …
Continue reading Get bleepin angry-what do to when you’re angry (part 2/2)
I’m a huge advocate of accepting and having a dialogue with our emotions. At the core I believe the purpose of each emotion is to a) deliver a message and b) be experienced physically in the body. These steps aren’t necessarily chronical but simultaneous. For a set of emotions there’s a third crucial aspect which is …
The definition of anxiety according to Cambridge dictionary is: “An uncomfortable feeling of nervousness or worry about something that is happening or might happen in the future”. All of us experience the unsettling emotion of anxiety at some point. As one who’s had more than my fair share of this type of distress, I can …
Few years back I was invited to a social function where I wasn't familiar with the guests, only the host. The event turned into an annual gathering and I became acquainted with the people. The last time I participated, I acted in a way that my desire to keep part take abruptly came to a …
(Related to the post “Let the trigger game begin!”) I’m guilty of using the words triggered, trauma and emotional wound interchangeably although not being synonymous. For starters, here is my interpretation of the slight distinction between the three. A trauma occurs at the initial incident where severe emotional pain, that’s too much to handle, is inflicted. …
In the previous post (Happy birthday to me (traveling solo and breaking old patterns)) I mentioned three themes that surfaced during my time in Australia. I thought we’d play a game of mix and match. You have to guess which of the themes powerlessness (a), rejection (b) or abandonment (c) goes with (or got set …
I got an email a while ago from a woman who was interested in someone but the other person didn't reciprocate those feelings. It was clear from her writing that she felt hurt and unwanted. This is understandable and I don't think anyone would react differently. Honestly, I'm not sure I can come up with …
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