Christmas and New Year’s are seasons steeped in traditions of family, relationships, and togetherness. But for those longing for a partner or struggling with their singlehood, this time of year can feel isolating, even overwhelming.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison, especially with the endless highlight reels on social media. But this year, let’s shift the narrative. Instead of dwelling on what you don’t have, what if you turned this season into an opportunity to show up for yourself?
Self-love: Changing the narrative
Life might not have delivered what you long for on a silver platter, but ask yourself: Will you host a pity party, or will you make an effort to honor yourself? Choosing you, even when it feels like no one else does, is a radical act of self-love.
Here’s my advice: Make this time of year all about you. If you’re lucky enough to have time off work, why waste it wallowing? Promise yourself that you’ll make the best of this time, no matter how small those efforts might feel.
With that being said, here are a few pointers to get through if you’re finding the holidays challenging.
De-dramatize the Holidays
The first step is to strip away the weight of what you think the holidays should be. Life isn’t black and white; it ebbs and flows. Some people will have the picture-perfect holiday season, while others will find it disappointing or stressful.
The truth? Expectations rarely align with reality. Many will set the bar too high and face disappointment, while others will be pleasantly surprised by what unfolds. Life is unpredictable, and next year, the roles may reverse.
Social Media Isn’t Real
It’s common knowledge, but it’s worth repeating: Social media is a glorified version of life. If seeing others’ celebrations gets the better of you, give yourself permission to step away from it entirely for the time being. Out of sight, out of mind.
Make This Time Yours
Now for the fun part: This is your time.
I won’t list suggestions because deep down, you already know what lights you up, what brings you joy, or what gives you peace. Maybe it’s a favorite activity, spending time with people who make you smile, or simply carving out quiet moments for yourself.
If your first idea feels impractical, move on to the next. The point is to try—to put in the effort for your own well-being because you are worth it. Worst case? You’ll know you did your best to honor yourself. And guess what? There will always be better days ahead.
Facing the Hard Questions
If you’re worried about intrusive questions at gatherings or being reminded of what you long for, prepare to embrace it all—every emotion, every feeling. Don’t avoid it, but don’t cling to it either. Feel it, honor it, and then let it pass.
What Will You Do?
Dedicate this time to strengthening your relationship with yourself. This is the perfect occasion to exercise self-compassion and resilience. Being there for yourself in moments of vulnerability is a profound way to grow and deepen your sense of self-worth.
This season, take the opportunity to pour into yourself. What brings you joy? What fills your heart with peace or excitement?
Even if it’s not the holiday you imagined, make it one that nurtures your soul. The days will pass, and new opportunities will come. But right now, it’s time to celebrate you.
So, what’s your plan to make this season special?
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