Initiate negotiations with your fear

All of us have dreams we desire to pursue. But the catch with lurring visions is the fear attached to them. That's simply how the dream package is designed, it’s excitement wrapped in fear. This means: if you want the gift you need to touch and get through the cover first.  Fear connected to potential …

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People pleasing- appreciated dysfunction

My name is Nouseibah and I’m a recovering people pleaser (“Hi Nouseibah”).  People pleasing is a well hidden, dysfunctional yet socially awarded way of living. The mechanics of people pleasing are simple: it's an exaggerated agreeableness and helpfulness at the expense of oneself. Behaviour wise, the primary motivation is externally driven: moving according to other  …

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Why work (is it inspiration or resistance)?

I was woken up at 5 a.m by a youtube automatic playlist clip (no I did not switch off my phone before bed) with Sadhguru, a spiritual teacher/guru. I’m not one of his followers, it's just what Youtibe decided to interrupt my sleep with (no offense to him I’m just drawn to other sources). He …

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Are you “understanding” to avoid confronting?

Most would agree that each time we are mistreated or a boundary is crossed by someone we feel an inner tension or stress. This internal imbalance automatically generates a seeking for relief. We desire to return to our emotional neutral point again. One direct approach to accomplish this is through expressing how we feel to …

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Get out your measuring stick! Let’s figure out your personal growth

A while back I wrote a text called “That one issue”. To recap, every single one of us has (at least) one area in life where reoccurring struggles seem to emerge. The issue can be related to health, friendship, work, finances, personal relationships etc. Characteristics of “that one issue” are the progressive mini steps in the …

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6 unconventional ways to soothe anxiety

The definition of anxiety according to Cambridge dictionary is: “An uncomfortable feeling of nervousness or worry about something that is happening or might happen in the future”. All of us experience the unsettling emotion of anxiety at some point. As one who’s had more than my fair share of this type of distress, I can …

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When you’re triggered as f**k

(Related to the post “Let the trigger game begin!”)  I’m guilty of using the words triggered, trauma and emotional wound interchangeably although not being synonymous. For starters, here is my interpretation of the slight distinction between the three. A trauma occurs at the initial incident where severe emotional pain, that’s too much to handle, is inflicted. …

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Let the trigger game begin!

In the previous post (Happy birthday to me (traveling solo and breaking old patterns)) I mentioned three themes that surfaced during my time in Australia. I thought we’d play a game of mix and match. You have to guess which of the themes powerlessness (a), rejection (b) or abandonment (c) goes with (or got set …

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Happy birthday to me (traveling solo and breaking old patterns)

 I’m unable to count the amount of times I’ve begun to type on my blog only to delete it. Mainly, I’ve had a feeling of being a phony if I were to post photos of picturesque nature landscapes or of myself with a wide smile enjoying life. I’ve captured plenty of images on camera and …

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