I’ve previously described the concept of “that one issue”. The basic characteristics include (minimally) one area in life where progress appears extra sticky with similar stumbling blocks recurring even when measures have been taken. Regardless of the amount of energy put in, the ball won’t start rolling or there’s a constant one step forward two …
All of us have dreams we desire to pursue. But the catch with lurring visions is the fear attached to them. That's simply how the dream package is designed, it’s excitement wrapped in fear. This means: if you want the gift you need to touch and get through the cover first. Fear connected to potential …
My name is Nouseibah and I’m a recovering people pleaser (“Hi Nouseibah”). People pleasing is a well hidden, dysfunctional yet socially awarded way of living. The mechanics of people pleasing are simple: it's an exaggerated agreeableness and helpfulness at the expense of oneself. Behaviour wise, the primary motivation is externally driven: moving according to other …
I was woken up at 5 a.m by a youtube automatic playlist clip (no I did not switch off my phone before bed) with Sadhguru, a spiritual teacher/guru. I’m not one of his followers, it's just what Youtibe decided to interrupt my sleep with (no offense to him I’m just drawn to other sources). He …
Continue reading Why work (is it inspiration or resistance)?
Most would agree that each time we are mistreated or a boundary is crossed by someone we feel an inner tension or stress. This internal imbalance automatically generates a seeking for relief. We desire to return to our emotional neutral point again. One direct approach to accomplish this is through expressing how we feel to …
Continue reading Are you “understanding” to avoid confronting?
A while back I wrote a text called “That one issue”. To recap, every single one of us has (at least) one area in life where reoccurring struggles seem to emerge. The issue can be related to health, friendship, work, finances, personal relationships etc. Characteristics of “that one issue” are the progressive mini steps in the …
Continue reading Get out your measuring stick! Let’s figure out your personal growth
The definition of anxiety according to Cambridge dictionary is: “An uncomfortable feeling of nervousness or worry about something that is happening or might happen in the future”. All of us experience the unsettling emotion of anxiety at some point. As one who’s had more than my fair share of this type of distress, I can …
Few years back I was invited to a social function where I wasn't familiar with the guests, only the host. The event turned into an annual gathering and I became acquainted with the people. The last time I participated, I acted in a way that my desire to keep part take abruptly came to a …
(Related to the post “Let the trigger game begin!”) I’m guilty of using the words triggered, trauma and emotional wound interchangeably although not being synonymous. For starters, here is my interpretation of the slight distinction between the three. A trauma occurs at the initial incident where severe emotional pain, that’s too much to handle, is inflicted. …
In the previous post (Happy birthday to me (traveling solo and breaking old patterns)) I mentioned three themes that surfaced during my time in Australia. I thought we’d play a game of mix and match. You have to guess which of the themes powerlessness (a), rejection (b) or abandonment (c) goes with (or got set …
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