Never get involved with newly singles (the rebound trap)

Regardless of what type of relationship one might be searching for, it’s a sifting and sorting game. For those seeking  the “romantic” longterm kind there will be many candidates passing through who won’t fit the criteria . Among these I’d put newly singles. In my opinion if you’re coming out of a long relationship and …

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A major red flag when online dating

I had a session with a woman who’s been married and found herself single for the first time in her adult life. She expressed feeling ready to try out the waters of online dating and asked me what the number one warning sign to look out for would be. Now there are obvious clues like …

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A salut to singles choosing the online dating experience (you deserve credit)!

4 months ago I decided to set off on a 6 month journey across the online dating terrain. I’m no stranger to online meeting platforms. While traveling I’ve discovered it’s the simplest way to get in touch with locals. What’s distinctly different this time around is the intention behind circling around the dating pool. I’m …

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Why involuntary singles should retreat from the dating scene

In the last post I describe three types of singles, two of these are the inbetweener and  involuntary single (don't know these terms? Read "Three types of single, which one are you?" ). My number one advice for every involuntary single is to take themselves out of the dating market and not return until they’re …

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Are you “understanding” to avoid confronting?

Most would agree that each time we are mistreated or a boundary is crossed by someone we feel an inner tension or stress. This internal imbalance automatically generates a seeking for relief. We desire to return to our emotional neutral point again. One direct approach to accomplish this is through expressing how we feel to …

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Let’s be honest shall we?

I think when most people define honesty, the concept is composed of truthfulness to other people. So if somebody asks you a question will you provide them an honest answer? Communicating our internal perception of things to others is important of course. I view it as the basis for a meaningful and trusting relationship. I mean …

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