Ghosting- a peephole into a persons character

According to Oxford languages, the definition of ghosting is “the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication”. Unfortunately, this type of disturbing behaviour is closely associated  with the dating world. Ghosting can take place on a small scale ( after a nice date or two) …

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Never get involved with newly singles (the rebound trap)

Regardless of what type of relationship one might be searching for, it’s a sifting and sorting game. For those seeking  the “romantic” longterm kind there will be many candidates passing through who won’t fit the criteria . Among these I’d put newly singles. In my opinion if you’re coming out of a long relationship and …

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A major red flag when online dating

I had a session with a woman who’s been married and found herself single for the first time in her adult life. She expressed feeling ready to try out the waters of online dating and asked for the number one warning sign would be. There are obvious clues like when the opening line is confrontative …

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A salut to singles choosing the online dating experience (you deserve credit)!

4 months ago I decided to set off on a 6 month journey across the online dating terrain. I’m no stranger to online meeting platforms. While traveling I’ve discovered it’s the simplest way to get in touch with locals. What’s distinctly different this time around is the intention behind circling around the dating pool. I’m …

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How about celebrating singles?

As we are entering wedding season in this part of the world I feel the evident discrepancies in how couplehood is viewed by society versus singlehood. While planning (yet another) bachelorette party I found myself feeling rather annoyed and reluctant. At first I couldn’t put my finger on why I was dragging my feet with …

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Why involuntary singles should retreat from the dating scene

In the last post I describe three types of singles, two of these are the inbetweener and  involuntary single (don't know these terms? Read "Three types of single, which one are you?" ). My number one advice for every involuntary single is to take themselves out of the dating market and not return until they’re …

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Get out your measuring stick! Let’s figure out your personal growth

A while back I wrote a text called “That one issue”. To recap, every single one of us has (at least) one area in life where reoccurring struggles seem to emerge. The issue can be related to health, friendship, work, finances, personal relationships etc. Characteristics of “that one issue” are the progressive mini steps in the …

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Singleness- malfunction or enhanced ability?

The terminology used when describing singles is rarely a flattering . The absence of a romantic partner, seems to lead to conclusions indicating there is a dysfunction at bay. One area where this occurs is in our ability to bond to another human being. I can testify to this myself having been on the receiving …

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“Are you seeing anyone?” – The interrogation begins!

The interrogation is a scenario that most singles are quite familiar with. It involves a minimum of one "detective" who's leading the interrogation, and a single person who's declaring their innocence. Important to note is that the interrogation is not culture dependent nor does consider how the parties involved relate to one another. It can …

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