Singleness- malfunction or enhanced ability?

The terminology used when describing singles is rarely a flattering . The absence of a romantic partner, seems to lead to conclusions indicating there is a dysfunction at bay. One area where this occurs is in our ability to bond to another human being. I can testify to this myself having been on the receiving … Continue reading Singleness- malfunction or enhanced ability?

“Are you seeing anyone?” – The interrogation begins!

The interrogation is a scenario that most singles are quite familiar with. It involves a minimum of one "detective" who's leading the interrogation, and a single person who's declaring their innocence. Important to note is that the interrogation is not culture dependent nor does consider how the parties involved relate to one another. It can … Continue reading “Are you seeing anyone?” – The interrogation begins!

The single woman: a party girl, career woman or psycho?

Have you ever thought about how single women are portrayed in the main stream media? I believe there is a screwed view that is slightly annoying in how single women are presented in movies, series and books. The characterization or the story line connected to single women are usually rooted in old-fashioned stereotypes that need … Continue reading The single woman: a party girl, career woman or psycho?

Rejection and self-blame

I wanted to write a piece on rejection because I recently had a conversation where it hit me just how unaware most people seem to be when it comes to the link between rejection and self-blame but also the disproportional relationship between the two. My experience when working with people (especially those dissatisfied with their … Continue reading Rejection and self-blame

When negative feelings and thoughts about ourselves get triggered

Can you reach that place where the single life is happy and free on a full time basis? I say, not a chance in hell. There will always be bad days. Days of doubt and when you question yourself and your life.  Days where it feels unfair and like you’ve made zero progress. This obviously … Continue reading When negative feelings and thoughts about ourselves get triggered

Let’s be honest shall we?

I think when most people define honesty, the concept is composed of truthfulness to other people. So if somebody asks you a question will you provide them an honest answer? Communicating our internal perception of things to others is important of course. I view it as the basis for a meaningful and trusting relationship. I mean … Continue reading Let’s be honest shall we?

The “check list” of life and being single

Most people I’ve encountered aren’t exactly super excited about their lives. They aren’t necessarily unhappy either. I would say the day to day baseline of well- being often is set on feeling “ok”. I suspect this is a natural result of not following our dreams or acting on our passions. It’s so easy to fall … Continue reading The “check list” of life and being single

30 years of age and always been single, shame oh the shame :)

The reason I decided to call myself a single coach is solely based on the fact that I know it very well since I’ve lived my whole life being single. One of the major themes that I have attached to this part of my life is shame. This is a big one. There is a … Continue reading 30 years of age and always been single, shame oh the shame 🙂